Why Am I “Wanty”? Checking In With the Medicine Wheel

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

A couple of days ago I posted a blog about need versus wants. It turns out I’m more “wanty” than needy. I used Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs to check out why I haven’t been so successful of late with my food-fighting prowess. I have achieved most of the things on the pyramid but I’m not completely self-actualized. Who is? Maybe the Dali Lama.

I’ve been asking myself “why” I want something and it is helping. I put “Why?” stickies in a few places around my house and this morning I found at least two of them with “Why Not?” written on them. Damn you, Leanne!!!!! But it is a good question. Why shouldn’t we live in the now and do what we “want”? I believe that even if we get everything we “want” there are still things we “need”. I look at the chart and money/possessions/fame are nowhere on it. It comes back to what those “things” bring you to fill your “need.

Enough! I need balance and I’m still working on my Medicine Wheel. It’s a different visualization with no top or bottom. It’s much more kinetic. You can work on, or go in, any direction. It is a traditional Native concept and relates to so many things like the cardinal directions, the parts that make is human, the seasons etc. And, as we know, if the wheel unbalances it doesn’t roll forward or backward well and in some cases, it doesn’t move at all. 

So, now to do some work. This is the really hard part. Most of us think we don’t like work but we do, when we get what we need! Work is not just the 9-5 stuff that we do 5 out of 7 days for that paycheque (as if most of us work 9-5). Work is the stuff we do  so we can live. Make supper, drive the kids around, weed the garden and the “job”. Exercise can be work and most of love that feeling of a good workout. See, it’s called a “work”out! How many of us (Norm) say they’re going to work in the garden? And it feels so good when we get the product of that work. Our entire salad last night (lettuce, tomatoes and cucumbers) was the product of Norm’s work.

I’ll start with:

WANT? I want to lose weight. WHY?
Physical: Save my hips; diabetes; heart; blood pressure; = NEED: to live longer and better
Emotional: Scared of consequences; hate myself the way I am; frustrated by limitations; = NEED: commitment to myself and to accept emotional support
Spiritual: ? I don’t know what I want spiritually here! NEED: connect my health with why I exist (The Spiritual part of my wheel needs lots of work!)
Mental: For my self-esteem ; I want to listen to myself; I believe I am smart but I make not so smart choices: NEED: allow my head to rule my body

WOW! I liked that process and it showed me that I have so much more to do. I’m going to do one more “want” on my blog then I’ll work on my own.

WANT? I want to be rich. WHY?
Physical: To want for nothing materialistic; to have a roof over my head even when I age; to be able to get around; to never be hungry = NEED: to have enough to be comfortable and happy
Emotional: I’m want able to support myself in my old age; to be able to keep my husband with me always;  I’m afraid I’ll be forgotten if I don’t have money to keep me involved in things and others’ lives = NEED: to accept the unconditional support and love of others
Spiritual: ? I don’t know what I want spiritually here! NEED: connect my health with why I exist (The Spiritual part of my wheel needs lots of work!)
Mental: For my self-esteem ; I want to listen to myself; I believe I am smart but I make not so smart choices: NEED: allow my head to rule my body; I need to think in the now and the future

This process is letting me use “Why?” to ask myself why I am doing something destructive or even questionable. If I pare it down to the nitty-gritty (Am I mixing metaphors here?) am I just thinking before I do. I want to get to the creativity, acceptance and moral fibre of my being. Why? Because I need these. Then maybe my wheel will be balance and I won’t be in one place waiting for roadside assistance then not accepting it when it is offered.

Thanks for listening. ;D Diane

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~ by 1fatgirlshrinking - Diane Kirby on September 17, 2012.

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